Husband looking for support

[LiM]

I didn't realize it at the time, but I was trying to control the situation by reaching out.

I think that is exactly what I finally realized and what changed my mind. I realized that I was trying to control the situation and her. We can't. The only thing we have control over is ourselves. The LAST thing our S's want to see in this situation is us trying to control them. I agree with Melo. Spend your time and energy working on YOU and not your S.