Sounds like your h feels guilty for shorting your kids w/his presence. Also, I could be wrong, but he's doing a temperature check to see where you are at w/everything going on.
As for the dog...you are right...who is he to tell you about he dog and where he should or shouldn't be? He doesn't live there any longer.
Bust on! You've got this!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
