I am content, that is a blessing.......

[mleigh4]

I think that is what keeps motivating me to get so annoyed about this. Who is H to stand up on a pedestal and judge ME? I realize it's insane, but it doesn't take away the pangs of his remarks.

So much for my MLC break. However I still have time! It will just be shorter. I want to take advantage not only oh H expressing himself to me, which is rare, but my chance to express my thoughts and feelings as well. Cali, I need a stronger STFU smoothie, double shot, because the one I had ain't workin'!

So H has gone on and on, most of it is very repetitive so I scanned through it, but he did suggest I look at the example of 2 couples we know whose kids are grown up and doing very well. One couple has been married for eons. The other had her H pass away 9 years ago (H BF) and now has a wonderful boyfriend. Both girls are very good friends of mine.

I responded and pointed out that they live their lives as a family unit. They compromise, work through things and set house rules together. Where one is weaker, the other is stronger, so they take charge as needed and back each other up. I said I would love that kind of support and back up. I said H, thing is, we don't have that. We live in 2 separate homes and are equally entitled to our own rules and lifestyles. I told H I think this is something he needs to accept now as things are bound to continue changing especially as S gets older. I asked, what are you going to do if and when S and I become part of a blended family and there is another man in his life with different views? I finished, unfortunately this is our reality. Accept our differences, back each other up best we can, agree to disagree and let the little things go. We are both doing our best.

SOMEONE TAKE THIS PHONE AWAY FROM ME!!! I AM INCHES CLOSE TO TELLING HIM TO F OFF FOR GOOD!

He responded saying he knows I badmouth him to S. That he is reading up on how to help S through this and if I am too to please forward the articles that say it's best to let him do what he wants and play mine craft all day. He also said he knows many people who grew up fine with separated parents.

OF COURSE HE DOES! It's all sunshine and rainbows for the kids. Anyway, I have nothing to add and hopefully he doesn't either. It's just turning stupid. Maybe I can now make it to Monday with NC from him.

Hawho, thank you for your tea toast. I will toast my wine to you tonight. Thanks for going through this fun blowup with me. I guess I can't complain, I DID say I wanted to hear what was on his mind