Hi Sandi, thanks so much for the reply. My dilemma is I'm unsure how I should react to W request to spend family time together as per my last 2 posts.

I can see arguments either way - tough love for the "no thanks" and 180, and for the kids to say "OK yes lets do that". Further detail above.

REALLY unsure about this one, and genuinely lost.

M 10, T 18
M: 36, W: 35, D: 8, S: 6
EA: Oct 12
ILYBINILWY: Jan 15
BD: Aug 15
Separated: Sep 15
Miss you: Jun 16
Aug 16: Dating (!)
Oct 16: Selfishness returns...
currently: disgusted