Since she's been back she has called me at least three times (finally reached me the third time.) Each time was to make sure I'm still interested in seeing her on Thursday. This is encouraging because while she has wanted to talk to me since February, this time she has not backed away. Yet.
It's impossible for me not to have expectations. If she's still involved with ow I will be very disappointed. But the fact that we are going out to 2 public places (an event here at work and then dinner)says something.
So, I'm re-reading Sandi's rules, re-reading my book on the lost art of listening, and trying to visualize a productive, fun, not too serious evening on Thursday. Baby steps. I don't want to scare the squirrel back up the tree. I'm not going to ask about ow at all. I'll mostly listen and validate. And I'll be sweating and anxious!!!
A lot of folks on here are cautioning me to back off or not go at all. I don't think that's the right thing for me at this juncture. W wants to talk; I think it's time we do.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
