I am content, that is a blessing.......

[mleigh4]

Thanks guys. Job, thanks for your approval, I have gotten so much better to not react with anger but to react with calm, short and sweet replies. Hawho, that is some interesting information about your H seeming jealous of the kids too. I agree that my H sees my mothering as spoiling.

So I have been blasted with spew last night and this morning, luckily I still have my spew jacket on hand. He is blowing up my phone. Lots of comments of how I let S have his way, don't make him do anything he doesn't want to do, let him sleep in his clothes, get upset when S gets hungry and call him a bad dad.......all the ways I am being a friend to S, not a parent. I have been compared to my friend, who raised her daughter as a single mom partying and dating and now daughter is a bit depressed.

Luckily I know this is a bunch of crap and not true and it makes me really sad to think he believes this stuff.

My comments to him were short and sweet. Basically I said I am sorry he feels this way, I am trying to understand his feelings, that we both have the same hopes and dreams for S, we just go about it in different ways, that I can't live up to his expectations of me, that I have been there and tried, that I just don't know what to say or do anymore.

More angry spew from H.

I finished with again saying his expectations may be too much for us, that our homes come with our own rules. I said my home, my rules, my business. I said I thought I was left to live my life, that is what I am doing, my way.

More angry spew from H but I am done and the phone is put away and I will no longer respond to him.