Well, you are very welcome for any help I may give. Sometimes I feel like I'm seen as the Grim Reaper, so I appreciate your encouraging words.
Some WW's act like spoiled children. If they don't get their cake, they throw a little fit. When you were running over there to repair things, or stay for her to talk about herself (selfish need), she was getting cake. When you don't comply, she's going to act out.
The email was her punishing you. She pulled out the guilt card......which is one of the favorite cards a WW will use on the H. (Another favorite card is blaming the H for wanting to control her). Just don't respond. Anytime she doesn't ask a direct question, it doesn't need a response. It takes some guys time to realize he doesn't have to jump every time she says frog.
She is use to getting her way, so expect her to play these silly games until she sees you are not the kind of man she can push around. Then, she'll really start with the games......to check your emotional temperature about the relationship. She may try acting pitiful and sqeezing out some tears........or tempting you sexually.......or suddenly being soooo sweet........or any number of things. Please don't make the mistake that other LBH'S have made and think it is some kind of positive sign and get your hopes up about it. It is part of the process, in order for her to see that you have changed and become a stronger man. A man that she will learn to respect.
Good job.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
