I'll admit that I struggle to understand how and why I'm at this situation. To go from a perfectly normal, loving woman to a complete nightmare in days was frightening to watch. I don't let her moods influence me, I just look for signs of fog lifting. I'm still at the stage of 'what if'; you know, not wanting to branch out unless there is a comeback. I think you'll understand what I mean! W only sees a confident, happy, fitter Huddy! Any anxiety/worry manifests itself as nightmares (bugger, I'd thought that was over).
As for coldness, I can only say she is freezing. Take yesterday. My D twisted her ankle at school and I welcomed her in with D, but instead of putting her on the setee, she put her on the floor, making her limp, so she didn't go in to the living room. When she returned, I carried my D to her car, but my W didn't even say 'thanks' or 'bye' even though the kids were shouting 'love you' and 'you're the best dad' out of the window.
I did read, I think in one of sandi2's posts, that she felt resentment for how her H coped so well during the melee, and that showed as coldness and verged on hatred, but was part of the 'ever famous' script!
All I can say, is that I feel OK, feel fitter, getting on with life but not looking for any other woman right now, even though I do miss the intimacy. My kids are doing OK (although on Friday my D tried to put my hands on W's and W looked away) and I do feel for them - they just want it back to normal.
Whilst I am posting on my thread at the moment, I'm not really posting on anybody else's, although I am reading a few newbies. I don't feel I can offer anything 'new', as most newbies enter this site for hope, and I can't really give them that nugget their looking for right now.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
