Husband looking for support

[collin]

Somewhere on the rules it says not to get a group of people to team up against your spouse. I know in my situation that is 100% true. My W always feels like everyone is blaming her for stuff. So if she felt like she was once again bearing the brunt of it, felt like people were blaming it on her and that this whole situation was her fault. It would do nothing but drive her further and further away and sever any possibility of a reconciliation.

Point is, my belief is, it's up to you, your spouse and your particular situation.

As far as her differences vs. yours. It is very interesting. I think once they give up the fight then their instinct is flight. Then, once they fly, our instinct is to pursue/chase. That's where we are now. My W wants to leave, separate, "have space", etc... I want to work, do MC, try to do all I can to work on me and us. But, I suppose if I'd have been doing this all alone we wouldn't be in this situation to begin with.

Our stories sound a lot alike, especially with being emotionally distant. I hope things work out for you and we're all here supporting you through this.