5 weeks in since she said she doesnt love me.

[Natus]

Thanks for the reminder Tim and GWH.

I am trying to find the balance between being present and not pursuing as well.

I am back in the master bedroom. Its hard because this is the women of my dreams literally and she is in my bed yet she isnt.

Last night the OM's wife came to my house with OM and sister in tow to confront my wife. It got heated between them. For me i got to learn more details of my wife's EA, how even though she had feelings for OM she actually did not pursue him and that she had actually applied to transfer away from their office but was rejected by head office.

I mostly just observed and kept my cool, interjecting alittle in my wifes defense from time to time because despite everything her emotional well being does mean alot to me.

I got to observe a moment where the OM denied ever expressing feelings for my wife and i could tell from the look in my wifes eyes at that moment that the man just lied in front of everyone. The OM had just betrayed her. I kept silent.

After when everyone left my wife and i sat down again. At first i thought she wanted to chew me out but turned out she wanted to let her feelings out. I sat and validated her. It felt very much like us against them but i kept that to myself.

It light of all of this i am trying to detach. Im telling myself even though if she doesn't end up with OM i still have a WAW. Somehow i feel that is much harder to tackle than a wife who still loves you but cheated.