WAS or what (6)

[roist]

Thanks mate. It helps. I'm aware and taking steps. It is toxic at time at least former. I will sort this. No doubt just a question of time.

Just back from drinks with friends.Wasnt planned but accepted invite at last minute. Well celebrate my birthday fully together later. Was fun.

Found another website this afternoon with more podcasts to listen to. Can't wait, but I will have to as I am taking tomorrow off work to have a family outing.

Got to go . Best wishes

[roist]

At least for me

[roist]

Z,

To answer your other question, I meant no feeling from her . No joy, no affection, no tenderness.....no love. But I think her LL is acts of service so I gotta appreciate the act.

[Zephyr]

We have no idea what thier feelings are...i wish we did. If you think that her main LL is acts of service, and she went through all of that for your birthday...id say that her actions spoke way louder than anything she could have possibly said to you yesterday or any overt reaction she could have made, you know what i mean?

The outward show of joy or whatever you were perhaps looking for, please consider why you were hoping to see that..why is thst important to you.

Maybe a good opportunity 5ro open up just a little...with a genuine thank you of some sort...small bouquet and a card saying thank you that her efforts for your birthday made you feel very special or something. No roses right now as they carry a connotation of romance. Maybe some spring flowers, lots of color lots of variety...maybe dont go flower route, but something.

Right now is not the best time to go over 5LL with her (i wish for you soon enough) but you have been together for decades and it is possible to make inferences on ranking them from her perspective...just to get a better vantage of how SHE feels loved or shows it.

I am really glad you went out with your work mates yesterday!

Enjoy your week.

[roist]

Thanks Z, I love the way you read situations (not just on my thread)and see opportunities.

I have been mulling over a thank you gesture for something else. I want to go beyond simple words. It feels right because it is not to influence her but for me to show gratitude.

I may not reply to some of your suggestions but I take them on board. On this journey I find that something I came across a year ago is right for now but wasn't then. So keep pointing out opportunities.
NAnother view is always welcome.

As for her LL, I am fairly sure and it is by far the one I SEE. But I try not to over analyse that for now.

[mutatio]

I do not feeling like posting much these days but wanted to say hang in there, your a good man, be well

[roist]

Thanks for checking in Mut'. Hopefully you will be there the day I post about a change in my M. Until then I wish you all the best and I look forward to hearing about your new path.

[mutatio]

I'll be around, I look for you and a few others. I am working on evolving. I am trying to not make the comfortable choices. I am here when your in need, be well

[Zephyr]

Hey buddy, since you are already there...have a good weekend!


I still have a few hours to go, looks to be a busy this weekend.

[Zephyr]

good morning (afternoon 9on 4 u I guess).

hope the weekend treated you well!