Thanks Z, I love the way you read situations (not just on my thread)and see opportunities.

I have been mulling over a thank you gesture for something else. I want to go beyond simple words. It feels right because it is not to influence her but for me to show gratitude.

I may not reply to some of your suggestions but I take them on board. On this journey I find that something I came across a year ago is right for now but wasn't then. So keep pointing out opportunities.
NAnother view is always welcome.

As for her LL, I am fairly sure and it is by far the one I SEE. But I try not to over analyse that for now.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together