Thanks again Sandi2. I'm with you 100%. Once I chased the "poor me" feelings away, I started thinking about exactly what you describe. However, my motivation is slightly different. I was having a conversation earlier with a trusted confidant and what I said was, "I'm going to make me the best me possible. As a side effect of that it will drive my W mad and she will pursue me."
I feel it is really important to portray a positive attitude during this (and really at all times). My W is questioning her love for me. If I act mopey and needy it prove to her I am a poor choice. But also, long term I will be happier if I adopt a positive attitude.
I also agree Sandi2 that I can not be deceitful. A strong H has integrity and is a man of his word.
In regards to the EA - same one as before. I know it is dangerous.
Thanks again to everyone who is helping me out. It is really improving my mood and helping me to know that this will work out with or without my W.
