Hi Annab74 Well do you still love him? today did not go so well! Didn't sleep well, woke up at 4 am crying and missing him. Finally got back to sleep and had a lovely dream - second one this week, of my H and I in our kitchen hugging. Sadly that didn't keep my attitude very well adjusted and just went into melting down spiral all day. Just went to see my therapist and that's helping. Face to face with my life long codependent behaviors and how much they have cost me in terms of creative expression, relationships, over care taking and financial security. The truth really [censored] sometimes. If I had 15,000 to spare I'd go check into the Bridge to Recovery in Kentucky. I asked my therapist if there was 'shock therapy' for codependency...that would be nice, huh? Tonight will get some sleep and tomorrow will be a better day. interesting that my therapist was at one point separated from his wife for 2 years and then got back together- he said from men's point of view - they feel relief for a while then start to wonder what the hell they're doing...helloooooooo