I like the attitude you express in your message - I'm new here too, but this really does seem like a constructive community where we can learn from each other. And it's been great seeing more LDs come out of the closet recently. We HDs really, really need to hear your point of view and the point of view of other LDs. If we don't, we'll just gripe to each other without learning much. Don't worry, we won't ask you to be the representative of all LDs, but hearing your experience is helpful.
Three kids 5 and under? That's a real challenge. Just finding a time that you and your husband are in bed, not exhausted, and not accompanied by children is a challenge.
But you've had some real success, and that's great! I wish there were some way for my wife to talk to some out-of-the-closet LDs without facing the pressure she would feel from HDs (including me) on this issue.
