14 days of sheer hell continues

[Dawgs]

@jeep, i know that i need to keep my distance and give her the space that she craves. I have one issue though...

I can see that she is acting like a randy 18 year old teenager. She has an extremely healthy sex drive and now a very big imagination to boot. I have a boundary about cheating, and she's not actually done that yet. But i can see that she might say yes to the first tom, dick and harry. If she does cheat, then she will be dead to me. I will contest for 100% custody and I will attach everything that I can to the divorce. That is a boundary that I refuse to allow to be broken.

Now, do i satisfy her craving in the hope that it will stop her from cheating or do i close my eyes and let her cheat - it is her choice - knowing that that will be the end of us anyhows?

I need as much input from as many people as possible please - Sandi i need your answer too. I cannot believe that i'm asking this question, i'm gonna hold back the tears.

Ugh, I know the feeling.

What I am about to say may hurt, because I'm facing the same thing (in a way) and it bothers me a great deal. I'd be willing to bet that even if you did satisfy her needs, so to speak, what's to say she hasn't already? Remember the rule - believe none of what you hear and only half of what you see. Do you trust her enough to take her at her word? Also, when these spouses' mindset gets to that point, it doesn't really matter what you do/don't do. Hell, my wife had five sex toys sent to a friend's house and went on a sex binge, I guess you could say. I'm not sure if she still is, but she is out of state so it doesn't really matter anymore. I guess in their minds it's like a drug and liberating for them - some come out of it and some don't, as in my Ws case. Honestly, I think that if you do or don't satisfy it, the outcome will be the same.

What you must ask yourself is that are you comfortable giving in to her drives and can you separate just sex from feelings? If you do decide to go that route, one thing that will always pop into your mind is what happened.