Jim, Take decisive action and don't wallow between giving up and filing for divorce. One day you are trying to gain custody of them, next you're giving them away for potential "visits" with you, all because of money.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016