Headed for D - Trying to move on

[J5K]

Link to old thread

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...887#Post2669887

I feel like I have been defeated by my W.

The damage both financially and emotionally is huge for a family of 7. I need to focus on work and minimize the financial loss for this family and let her take the boys and raise them.

Somehow I need to give her space even if we are headed for D.
Maybe if she sees that the boys will miss their dad she may reconsider things. I most likely don't think she will but I cannot think about the future. I can only react to what she does and hope that I can forgive and release my resentment so I can build a better relationship.

I feel alone without her. I can only imagine how alone she felt while I was working all those hours and she was taking care of the boys.