Aftermath

[TimR]

So my current conundrum??? S13 wrestles in huge tournament this weekend. For some reason (I think he is pushing back from her trying to pull him away from me) he decided he thinks it should just be a guys weekend. He told WW that he just wants it to be me and him to go and for her to stay home. Of course, he says this right after he heard me tell her, "I think you should just take Friday off since it is a 6 hour drive to get there."

Yesterday, she contacted me about it and I then called her to discuss it. I told her it is unusual that she is not there. I can only remember 3 maybe for 4 tournaments she ever missed and that was to be at S16's basketball games (we always split the boys so at least one of us were at any of their activities). And her missing was at the very beginning of S13 wrestling. I told her she should talk to him about it.

Later that night, she texts me saying she spoke to him and he stood firm that he just wants it a guys weekend. I know that hurts her because despite all her b1tching and complaining about these things, she truly loves to be there. So I feel bad for her. I said I would talk to him and she said no I don't want to force him and she is ok although it hurts. Eventually, I said "maybe you should just go."

I said that and at the same time am ecstatic myself that she is not going. Sharing a hotel room with an ex would not be fun and would be a very uncomfortable situation. We could each sit on separate beds while texting our new partners, lol.

Yet... and this is the rub.... someone I know it is going to get turned around that I put him up to this. ugh, I just know it. Not that I care if she is mad at me, but what games she might start playing with him again. It is a no win, but I think I covered my bases by telling her maybe she should come and not worry about what S13 says...

Any thoughts??