5 weeks in since she said she doesnt love me.

[TimR]

Natus, you have quite the yo-yo thing going on there. I know you said about reading my previous thread, but I do not know if you read my entire story. The reason I mention that, is try not read good intentions into just every day things with your WW. Mine would give me little hints that an actual person was in there but would then flip the script on me.

I have not seen it hear on your thread but you have probably read it elsewhere on someone else's. Regardless, I want to remind you, it took a long time (often years) for your M to get where it is. There will not me a quick fix to broken pieces of your M. Some people on this board have put years of work in before it showed any positive signs. Do you have that kind of patience?? I ask because I did not. When I began to think rationally, I looked at my M and realized I did not want to return to that as it was unhealthy for me.

Therefore, I was a failure at DBing when it comes to my sitch, just as I was in picking my W and in my M. What I gained through this process was a newly found sense of myself. With that disclaimer, here is what I think of your sitch.... I think you are pursuing way too much (sorry to be the one that has to say it, cause I really hated truth darts on my thread). Yes it is softening her but is it making her fall back in love with you. While I tell you my opinion, only you know your sitch and have to decide whether it is a method that is working or causing guilt for her. If you suspect guilt then you need to stop, you wouldn't want someone just because of their sense of obligation... Right?

I wish you the best of luck. It is a horrible place for any of us to be. It truly [censored] to be here but at least you are surrounded by great people!