To ignore or not to ignore?

[roist]

Your daughter is v young. She can easily rebond/bond with dad a little later. Maybe less is more right now.

If you do take him up on his offer, turn up dressed to kill as if you have a hot date or big fancy do to go to. Exaggerate your GAL and your having fun.

Either way GAL and have fun for you.

[sr9e2d7]

SO frustrated right now. Tomorrow is his day with the baby, and by day, I mean 2 hours with her. He just sent me a message saying that he had something from 4:30-5:30, but he's gonna have someone watch her. Then he's free from 5:30-6:30, but then has something again at 6:30. He asked if that's ok with me...it's not! It's supposed to be his day with her, not a day with someone else watching her. Do I have a right to say something to him, can I say that's not what the plan was and that i'll just keep her? It's his first week with her!

[roist]

I think technically he can do has he wants during his time. BUTiif it is not a legal agreement in your position I would say it is not ideal and he can have her next week if he can organize his time to mind her.

[sr9e2d7]

Yeah, I know he has nothing on Friday night so maybe I"ll see if he wants to switch (although I can't imagine he'll give up his weekend). I just can'tdeal witn with this every week. She's young enough now where it doesn't make a difference, she doesn't know any better, but eventually she'll get it. His life has never once been affected by her, seriously. That's what frustrates me so much. IN the year and two months since she's been born, I have had to make all of the concessions, I have had to call out of work when she's sick, I've gotten up with her EVERY single night.

[DDJ]

He does not respect you, or his daughter. you most likely need to stand up or his going to have you flat on your back every week.

[sr9e2d7]

Today is the day that he is officially moving out. I can't believe this is really happening. I don't really have much to say, just feeling overwhelmed by the whole thing.

[sr9e2d7]

Really missing him right now. I just feel so empty

[Cherry]

I'm sorry you find yourself here. I can totally relate to your position with a young baby. It's so hard when you're adjusting to life as a mom, and a wife and trying to maintain a sense of self.

In the long run, he is the one with a lot to loose here, but that's easy to say I know. Keep looking after you, be gentle on yourself and focus on you and your baby. My baby is what keeps me going at times- because they deserve better. They also need a reliable steady parent, and that's us. Do you have anyone that can help with baby? Any family. My mil is my main support system she's great and helps when I feel I need a bit of me time

Keep posting, we are here for you.

[sr9e2d7]

My parents are incredible, and I have amazing friends. But no one takes the place of him. He "moved out" into a new place. I put "moved out" in quotes because all of his stuff is still at our house. He says he hates the new place and misses us, but I don't want him to come back just because he doesn't like the new house. I want him to come back for the right reasons. I know he misses the life he had, but how will I ever know if he is really missing me?

[SH_]

Hang in there sr9,

I know the feeling as my WAW moved out this past weekend as well. And she did so in a Big Bang fashion of fury and anger. And yet the past 2 days have been riddled with the feelings of loss for me.

Today is better than yesterday and hope tomorrow is better.

I am in your corner and can relate, I just wanted to send you support and encouragement.