I have two theories as to why she wants me to have specific weeks off. Theory one is simple - she's 'seeing' somebody, and wants a romantic break without the kids. Well, tough, because if that is the case, new man would have to like kids anyway. Theory two is about her planned cosmetic surgery. I guess she might want those weeks to have the deed done and then have the required recovery time. She has asked that I take SD with me as well, but I've said no, as she's 21 this year and I doubt she'd want to spend time with me than her boyfriend.
Talking about the cosmetic surgery, the cost is �11k, and I have no idea how she would fund that. My S brought his laptop with him last week, and W had been using it and left a tab open with her finance options on it. Unless she's won the lottery, somebody else is paying or she's planning on a credit agreement for the next 10 years, she can't afford it.
The loss thing has to happen at some point. Who hasn't made a decision and then thought about it afterwards? Your W will feel it at some point. Has she had the baby yet? Will this cramp OM's style?
It's difficult to make that decision to give up. I'm trying to wrestle with this problem now. I don't want to be the one who threw in the towel, but, I don't want to be on my lonesome for evermore. I keep thinking about if the boot was on the other foot. I would have applied for a D as soon as I can; wanted NC etc. etc. and she is still uber curious about my movements. I digress.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
