Ups and Downs (III)

[Painter]

Juju, I'm glad that you are feeling a little better today. The emotions come and go - but tears release stress hormones so it's not a bad thing to have a good cry. It's bad when you feel like you can't breathe anymore, though - done a few of those over the last couple of years...

H and I had a really close relationship until the day I moved in. After that, it was like he withdrew. We tried to fulfill our roles without really knowing how to or having discussed it very thoroughly. I had said a lot of stuff and H had nodded, but we didn't really have a real discussion.

If I ever meet anyone that I would like to have a serious relationship with, I will grill them so carefully about *everything*!

I am also willing to work on the relationship. I guess I have faith in people's ability to change and adapt, and a natural optimism combined with tenacity. Especially tenacity. It can work both ways...

In general, it is said that women seem to be better able to live in a difficult emotional situation for a prolonged period of time. Men in general want it to be over with quickly. I'm sure there's tons of examples of this gender division being wrong!