NYGal: hopeful? Not so much

[Painter]

I would agree to go out to eat, but maybe not to the game. It would be odd to me to hang out socially without the opportunity to talk privately first. I'm curious what she's thinking about that.

Of course, H wanted me to go to dinner with an old HS friend and his family after we had set the move-out date for me, and said nothing to anyone about us splitting up - we had a good time but it changed nothing. So who knows what they think!

Don't expect this dinner to be a changing moment. No expectations! If needed, get your jaws wired shut or fill your mouth with caramel so you don't say anything, just listen.

Even if she wants to reconcile, you have a ways to go. I hope for the best for you, but try not to jump to far ahead.