I am content, that is a blessing.......

[mleigh4]

Last post for the day, to vent, then no more all week! And I am starting my week of NC with a bang!

H decided to pick up a doghouse from a friend. He has mentioned it, asked if I wanted it first, then decided he would take it. Apparently he has been putting it off and MUST pick it up tonight. This was going to throw off my plans so I called him and asked him, can't this wait until tomorrow? He said no, he promised he was going to get it tonight. I let him know, that was unfair to me, to not check with my plans first, not to mention that doesn't get him home with S until 7:00, then he has homework and dinner to still do with S. I told him S is starving as it is when I get him at 5. So then H started in with that is S fault because he doesn't eat his whole lunch. I told him whether he does or not, they eat at 11:30, what do you expect? We went back and forth until I finally snapped and said the whole thing is stupid, waste of time to argue about a stupid doghouse for a dog he doesn't even have. Just go get the dumb thing, I will take S shopping with me, and I will get him something to eat to hold him over until he can eat dinner.

S heard some of this, so I made sure to assure him that he is not the problem here, that I am upset because I hate knowing he has to eat and do homework so late. He said, we don't usually eat until 8:00 anyway. Sigh.

Bottom line, I can't tell my H how to handle his nights with S, just as I don't want him telling me. But I hate that S does not have the routine and structure there that he has here. Not much I can do about that, is there? I am also tired of H putting himself first.

As I am writing this, I get the follow up blast from H, asking what lessons get learned from a kid growing up not having to do things he doesn't want and facing the consequences of being hungry before dinner. (Huh?) He goes on and on, I just skimmed through his nonsense. He threw in his sarcastic so sorry for messing up your plans tonight! You have no idea how much I want to point out the consequences S is suffering on a daily basis because of his self centered, narrow minded ass of a dad! Ooohhh, or maybe I should respond with an Mleigh question!? Why are you so upset? Tell me, why does it upset you so much when I show normal motherly love and concern for my S?

No Job, don't worry, I won't.......although my question is very tempting to send......Phone is away from me and I will not respond. I think that will irk him more than any truth dart I can give.

Here is to 7 H free days. Oh Hawho, I wish we were closer so we could celebrate that come Wed. when your H leaves!