5 weeks in since she said she doesnt love me.

[CWOL]

I've let her know that while i still love her and am willing to give the marriage another chance i cannot have her polluting our bed while she has designs for another man. In spite i may have also reached out to the OM's wife to let her know as well. I do not know if she has read my texts as so far no response.

You did the right thing. I've been there before too, I doubted myself for a long time but I couldn't believe my WW would betray me a second time. Good job on reaching out to OM's wife, that will help break up their A. Only when the A has ended can the two of you truly reconcile.