I am having second thoughts if she really is WW or is she trying to just get away from me. She said repeatedly that she is leaving because she does not love me, that falling in love with OM is what made her realize that she is not in love with me.
What is there to have second thoughts about? Just the fact that there is an OM at all, defines her as wayward.
Would it change how you would approach things, if she just wanted to get away from you? Look to what extent she would go to, in order to make you believe she fell in love with OM!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!