Rouky, I'm glad you had a fab day today and achieved a lot of stuff. I'm very proud of you! Of course, you are going to be a bit raw after what transpired. People are very concerned for you and ask about how you are doing. They want you to know that they are there for you...but they don't realize that asking how you are doing just sets the emotions in full mode of tears. They truly mean well.
I think you will find that going NC is the best way to go for you right now. It's truly to protect you from him and his behavior as much as possible. As for him announcing his departure, they are clueless that we can and do figure things out for ourselves w/o their help. They tend to forget that we aren't dumb while they are exploring the world on the Mother Ship.
If you can find someone to help you move, by all means ask others to help you. Professional movers can cost an arm and a leg. I would suggest that once the move is completed, order some pizza and have some sodas/drinks available to share w/the helpers...this goes a long way to getting them to help you w/other projects.
Rouky, give yourself some time to take care of you. You've been shocked by your h's behavior and trust me, I do know how that behavior can just floor you. Always try to remember, this isn't about you, but about him and right now, he's angry w/the world and himself. It's best to stay out of his way and allow him to fight w/himself.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
