DB is all about nuance -- you say you "didn't go out of your way to organize things before BD day"

Was that one of your W's specific complaints?

Your 180's are best done in the format where you can do them regardless of what she's doing. i.e. organize things for the kids regardless of whether or not W participates.

180's are about life changes that YOU want to make to make you a better person, they are not about "putting on a show" temporarily for your WAW, because they always see through that, disbelieve it, and dismiss it as not real.

Don't use a 180 as an excuse to do something you're not really ready for.

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015