Biggest piece of advice I can give, and I didn't learn this soon enough, is the best way to reconnect starts with working on yourself. You connect to the outside world by looking inside first.
Me: 38 y/o W: 38 y/o Together: 10 yrs Married: 7 yrs S1, D3, S15(hers previous, I adopted May'15) WBD: Sep '15 W's EA confirmed Oct'15 W Filed Dec '15 Personal awakening Mar'16