Each person takes as much time as they need to finally detach and understand what MLC is all about. Why did you call your h? Two months is a very short amount of time for him to be quiet. You've got to allow him to come to you when he's ready.
If your h is required to travel for work, then he has to go because it's necessary. You asked about escaping from reality...what do you think drinking, gambling, being a workaholic, the op, sports, hobbies, watching TV, on the computer in chatrooms and yes, even the op are to them when they are depressed? It is called escaping from what ails them and finding something that makes them feel good.
Leave him alone, do not call him unless it is an emergency.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
