Ok about me. I love to cook. Don't do so much of that now though. I've always wished I could swim...have a massive fear of water after being pushed in a pool when I was a child. I enjoy a glass of white wine. Enjoy chatting to friends.
So, maybe a couple of potential goals there? 2016 could be the year you choose to learn to swim? Most leisure centres offer 1-1 sessions for all ages...
Also, you love to cook but don't do so much of it now...again maybe this is an area you could pursue too?
All of us (to an extent) lose ourselves in our Ms - your H is gone for now - and this does present an opportunity for you to do some things just for you....xx
If you can take the initial baby steps towards that, it does get easier I promise...
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
None of us know how our sitches will ultimately turn out. However please try to avoid absolutes like 'forever' as only time will tell.
Yes, he has chosen to leave your M and is with OW. He is however doing stuff with the kids, which is good.
Please try not to get stuck in this train of thought and try to focus on how you can move forward here, given all circumstances. Just remind me, are you seeing an IC at all? If not, you may find it helpful to explore these areas with her...
Things will get better I promise, but please know that this all needs to be about you and the kids as focusing on him will just bring further pain and torment. Try and focus on what you can control.
((((Hugs)))
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
I'm glad you've been seeing an IC. Have you gained some useful insight from that? I would love to see us all thrive despite current difficult circumstances and I think that starts with deciding to do things for ourselves.
I think anyone posting on this part of the forum has probably experienced some pretty horrible behaviour from their MLC spouse. The important thing to know is that his current poor choices do not diminish you in any way. You are a unique, attractive, bright and loving person, who is 'enough' in her own right and doesn't need someone else to complete her.
I hope we can all find the momentum and the confidence to move forward (whatever our MLC spouses may be up to). That part is all about us and how we can learn, grow and heal through trying times - and I'll be right there cheering along and walking beside on that journey.
Xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
I'm usually not a supporter of meds but have you thought about talking to a Dr? It might help you sleep a little more and get through the really rough times.
Do you like to read? Lose yourself in a book when that feeling hits. Give me a list of things that sound like fun but you've never tried. You like to cook?
Host a dinner party! Invite friends/family, tell them the subject of H is off limits. Then have a great time. You could make dinner a theme with multiple courses and have so much fun. Planning would also help to take your mind off of feeling low.
Do some charity work. This will make you feel appreciated & needed as well as helping others. Could you volunteer at a soup kitchen?
You said you are a teacher? Have you ever thought about helping to coach a sport? Exercise really is a natural mood lifter.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
Don't really want mess tbh. When this first started I was on antidepressants and it really affected my eating and weight.im back up to a stable weight now and just want to allow nature take its course.
I think thinking of fun things at mo is hard. Give me time.
