So my WW is still very clearly in the fog, but that's her problem now isn't it. The divorce is looming and the OP is still very hands-off. Things are looking good. Not at all.
All this wandering is clearly in her head, nothing else, she feels that this is acceptable behaviour. It's insane.
Originally Posted By: DDJ
Anyhows, i'm detaching more, we're making our own meals, i'm not initiating convo, no physical contact given from my side, and she's leaning in so much, it's sad to see her so desperate, but let me revel in it for the next few months.
Did you read the thread on detachment? These are NOT examples of detaching.
Also, I have no idea what you are reveling about, but Im sure that it isnt helping you.
Originally Posted By: DDJ
I can see how every time i go "soft" (as a test) it pushes her away from me. Each time i pull away, she comes towards me. How is the human psyche built like this? Is there a proper psychological understanding of this "condition" documented anywhere?
Why are you "going soft". All that does is undermine all of the other things you are doing. How can she trust your actions if you relax on them? Consistency is the key.
Also, did you read the pursuit and distance thread?
