I understand your confusion on the rules. If your wife was willing to work on things in your marriage, then it would make sense to not follow all of the rules. However, it appears that she wants out. The best thing for you and your marriage is to follow the rules.
In response to your question: Rule #15 - Your wife wants to separate. You need to fully experience the separation. Engaging in conversations will not help the experience.
Rule #8 - Couples who are separated do not purchase gifts for each other.
Rule #9 - You're not dating, you are separated.
The hope is that your wife will realize that she does want a relationship with you during the separation, right? So while separated, be patient and give her the chance to know what it would be like. Meanwhile, continue to work on yourself and develop your skills. Be the husband you want to be for your wife. Develop your listening and communicating skills.
