Nothing wrong with a good cry. I probably cried every single day for the first two months. But do it by yourself. Dont let her see that. The only thing she should see is a strong, confident man. You can show her your hurt later. But not right now. I'm really glad you are able to see where you have been deficient in your life. Its key to moving forward. It too was emotionally absent and far too focused on my own needs for a long time. The emotional needs of my W and family came second and that's not ok. Reconnecting with others and becoming more social is an EXCELLENT way to show your W that you are not that same person anymore even though you are not directing that attention towards her. This is a perfect example of how you can be detached and yet still be engaged in behaviors that will attract her and bring her back to you. You can do this! Get to work and come back and report your progress often.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
