1. I want W to move to share the bedroom with me 2. I want her to spend time with me - talking, sharing, planning, 3. I would like us to be able to work together, compromise, share, etc 4. I would like W to make our relationship and family her #1 priority and her interests/Work 2nd 5. I would like us to be a couple do things together, make friends, go to church, etc - Other common interests - business, politics, technology, music, tv, movies, etc 6. I would like to have a physical, affectionate, sexual relationship 7. I would like W to take part in our family activities - sports, church, etc
I see these being your "wants". This is how you see a healed MR. How can you turn them into goals, since they involved another person's volition?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
