I imagine that can be a worry. When is the next time you will meet some of this group of friends? If it is not for a while, don't worry about it for now.

I tend to agree with the coach.

I'll think about this for you and will let you know if I come up with any suggestions

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together