Hi there - although I understand the urge, I would not send anything until after you are done in court. You don't want to hand her something she can use against you.
That's a very good point, Painter. 1313, as much as I would like to send a letter just like that, it will just reflect weakness on us Betrayed Spouses. The letter serves not to validate the WW's thoughts but your own. I would suggest writing it then burning it.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016