Thanks for that. This is a lonely place to be and knowing others are going through it or have gone through it and support you is huge.
Had my first heave cry today. I'm sure there's more to come.
I am focused on improving myself. I see where I was unavailable to my W when she needed a connection and some empathy. I am working on my skills connecting and being emotionally available. I am finding ways to connect with friends and become more socially active. I've always been physically active and healthy and that won't drop off.