Hi V, Because when she spends time with the xh, she doesn't get to sppend time with my family at all.
He gets her all of the weekends and even I don't get her weekends. I only get her weekdays when she's at school and I am at work.
I don't get to do fun things with her at all. And my family doesn't get to see her at all with the amount of time she's spending eith him.
Nothing wrong with spending time with his family except that they tell her things like the D is my fault. They also make her feel like my family can't compete with them in terms of resources and kid feels it.
I guess I feel that time with me as a parent shpuld come first. If he feels that it's more time than he can handle, he should scale back.
As it is, legally he's only supposed to see her once a week but he has been using the excuse of me trying to control him to get his way. He spews and throws tantrums at me to get his way. He says that I am controlling him.
So he gets to decide how much or how little he wants to see kid, by always accusing me of using kid against kid against him.
In fact, he used that excuse to get pretty much what he wanted in the D.
By this time, I feel very tired. I feel like maybe it's time to start standing up for what I feel should be mine?
I really don't think it's right that he gets to fvck us over so many times. First by villyfying me in our coomon profession and among his extended family. Then by depraving me of time with kid.
He gets to enjoy his life the way he wants it and I have to pick up the pieces of my life again and again and again.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
