Hi DBers, Our family motto is: If it's going to funny later, it's funny now. I'm having a hard time wrapping my brain around this at the moment... Long story short - while we've had our share of ups and downs over 15.5 years we've been together, we have always had a deep love for each other - a lot of connection over everything from camping and hiking to the movies and music we like, same sense of humor etc. I won't go into the long story - last few months have been stressful for a number of reasons bla bla bla. We had a big fight- same fight,different day- only worse and he went to stay w friends and then came back the next day and moved out a bunch of his stuff. Being the eternal optimist that I am, I immediately started googling for help and found Divorcebusters. I already bought the Divorce Remedy and had my first session with a DB coach last Thursday night. The same day he moved his stuff out he texted me and said 'I'm done' and that he'd blocked my calls and texts. I now know this was a blessing - as I am the codependent over care taking one who fears abandonment (that's the funny part, right?) and would have had a hard time not calling him. So I wasn't ALLOWED to do any of the pursuing behaviors, thankfully! He said he'd call me when he was ready to talk. Finally got an email from him today - repeating the 'I'm done' theme. It's only been 11 days since our fight. I've been getting some helpful advice from a male friend who was separated from his wife for 2 years and they almost divorced but are now together and happy. I am the faith-holder! Would so love any thoughts or support ... Does this ? sound possibly like a mid-life crisis in part? I have the tendency to think everything is my fault, while he tends to the opposite and nothing is his fault. Just trying not to melt down every five minutes and stay strong. I'm 57 and he's 59. No kids. Seeing my therapist on Tuesday thank god, (who by the way, was also once separated from his wife for 2 years). THANKS for reading this.
