Hi Mia, I can imagine the weekends without the kids being harder for you. The best plan is to replace that time you spend sitting and thinking about 'him/them etc' with some GAL for yourself.

Whilst unasked for, the weekends do represent some time that you could plan to do some things just for you - no working around soccer practice, bath time, home work etc - maybe some time spent with a girlfriend, family or just indulging yourself. I sometimes used to ask myself - okay, given all circumstances are just as they are....what would joy look like to me this weekend?

I hope you'll be able to plan something nice for yourself next time you don't have the kids, and that you'll come to experience more 'upsides' in this tough situation. It does take time, and I'm not saying any of that is easy - but with gentle and persistent effort and baby steps it can be done.

Xx

T 13 M 7
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SS 15
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus