Thank you V, and yes Sandi is a godsend and I value her advice highly.
I know he is not the problem, it's my WW's heart but I just don't get how that becomes a more attractive proposition than her young family. That she trusts someone in her life for a little over 1 year than the husband in her life for over 10. I don't know exactly what her is to her right now, part of me has the impression that she got this attraction to him before finding out his extra preferences because when I confronted her at his place the first time, he was trying to say it wasn't him. Sometimes I wonder if she snowballed something that she is not humble enough to turn around. I know that it doesn't change my direction as her heart, her thoughts are the big problem.
I do recognize my own areas of fault and I got too tired and impatient with the family during this house building process and lost who I was over the years of always trying to be what she wanted. I know I need to take this time to recover myself, find my way again and work out what I want.
Thanks again for saying you are liking the way I am handling it as, for sure, some days I don't always feel it.
