Way Too Late Pt 3

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...We LBSs try to do what we can, but the reality is that we truly have no control over our spouses because they are the ones driving the bus. If they don't see us because they've moved out and on, then there's really nothing that we can do to alter their course.

It's discouraging to realize, but I'm getting there. Slowly. DBing is for us, not for our marriage. If our spouses notice, then maybe it can change or improve the M, but otherwise, it's out of our hands. I didn't realize that for a long time. I still wish it weren't so.

Phoebe, DBing is for us. We have to learn to move on. You are correct, they're driving the bus. It's just our decision to get off at the next corner and take our own vehicle. That's what I'm doing.

There's a seat next to me, she's welcome to ride shotgun into the sunset if she so chooses. I don't really say that in the letter, but it can be read between the lines.