You sound like you're doing so well at this - you're amazing! I can see why you wrote that you are thankful for H's MLC in the senses that it has led to you finding yourself again. If only we could find ourselves and keep our Hs at the same time.
Originally Posted By: ciluzen
I also told him I would like to know what type of relationship he thinks we will have after D, since he seemed to be taken aback that I wouldn't feel free to use our vacation home, which he wants to keep. He said "I haven't really thought about that, that far".
This sounds exactly like my H! If I had a pound for every time he has given me the answer, "I haven't really thought about that, that far."!!!!!!!!!!! Do they do ANY thinking at all about the major, destructive, issue they have created?!?! I find it incredulous that they destroy everything that was their life and do no thinking about it, or the future consequences, whatsoever! It is so frustrating.
It seems like a good sign that he chose to ask you to dinner when he was feeling down. I'm sure there have been many other times since your S that he has felt down and he didn't ask you to dinner then. As you say, it is so true that we should believe half of what they say and do.
