And on it goes

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Hi Mia, no Jim Conway never had OW - unusual for a MLCer as many/most do.

I can understand how you must feel about the kids. It's better that he does things than not with them - and at this point he may feel 'the kids are just fine with everything.' It tends to take a while for MLCers to face what they have done (years I think for most as replay lasts for a while.)

There may or may not be hope for your R, but I do think the choice may ultimately become yours. I agree his actions haven't been constructive - however I hope you better understand them having read the Conway book. I don't believe many MLCers are 'bad' people - though the behaviour can be pretty poor for a while.

I'm totally sure things won't ultimately be great at his end. Yes there may be an infatuation high just now - but consequences (for adultery and blowing up your marriage/family) roll in gradually.

However, the main thing is to try and process all of this at your end in as healthy a way as you can manage - release the anger (not at him ideally), read, learn, start to live again, move towards acceptance, grow....

When you look at your M now, and you within it - are there things that you would like to change in yourself moving forward?

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