Hi SadHub, I'm just checking in and letting you know that I'm pulling for you today. I know that it is incredibly hard for you today.
Try not to beat yourself up for being unable to control your emotions and anxiety.
You are not a weak man. You're a good man who is heartbroken. A weak man goes out and has an affair and throws a good marriage away, a good man tries to care for his family and keep it together, even at great cost to himself. You are definitely the latter.
Hi Sadhub, I understand how you feel as I have been struggling this week to control my own emotions. Spent too much time and energy trying to work out and understand how this went so wrong, I get into a funk thinking this is so much my fault as my WW tells everyone she doesn't need fixing. Regretting that I didn't find the help or knowledge I'm finding now earlier. I need to get better at the emotional detachment, I have managed to cope with the physical side of detachment although I miss my Wife's presence and company of course. I do need to be much better at letting go emotionally, my family are getting annoyed at me now for going in circles trying to work it out when I know deep down I can't and I can't be the one to fix it.
I quote Pheobe because I feel her words about being a good man trying to keep it all together at a great cost to himself. We need to keep working, believing in ourselves as strong people. The strong ones stand, the weak ones run.
