I think the e-card was a good in-between Thornton. I vacillate back and forth even in my own stitch about responding to texts however. I almost think it would have been better IMHO to not have responded to her text. After all the intent was to let your/her D know that you were thinking about her on her BDay and not your W.
It's going to be hard again I think because I don't know how long until the next communication will be from W, but leave it in her court. I find that it is almost worse when we do hear from them, because it is never anything that we want to hear, more often just empty communication.
Me:33 H:34 T: 3yrs M: 2yrs H depression triggered and we are "unhealthy": 7/15 H wants to "make it work" 12/28 BD: 3/10/16