It sounds like you did really well, SadHub. You voiced your concern that you wanted to keep things civil, and then validated her response and didn't get pulled into any kind of pursuit at her confusing messages. You showed a lot of strength.

Take some time to just sit still for a little while this evening and breathe and find your center again. You've come though a big storm today and you need to take care of yourself for a while.

Take care.

H: 44, Me: 45
Married: 20 y Together: 25 y
no kids
Walk away: 12/15
Asked for temp separation 12/25/15
PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had)
H filed for D 5/16