This has been building in your W for a long time so its not going to be fixed overnight. Sounds like you have a lot of issues to work on but that's ok. We all do. So.......Start fixing those today. Take a good long look at yourself and figure out what needs to change. No bandaids here. We are talking about permanent life changes going forward. Its time for you to become a new man. Find out how to be the man that only a fool would leave. A lot of us do have WW and it sounds like you have a WAW so I think you don't want to be as heavy handed. Maybe you can be a LITTLE softer on the rules. But do know that even if you separate, if you truly implement 180's and GAL, she WILL notice. I kicked my WW out of the house after I discovered the A and even though the A was still going on (and I didn't know it), I've now learned that she DID notice all the changes I was making. She noticed them because they were genuine. No matter what my faults in the past, it didn't justify her having an A but I did have lots of things that needed to change. So I found out what those were and started making changes. Real, meaningful changes. That's what you have to do. You W will notice if you do this and follow all the rules. Make her see what she will be missing if she walks out on you . I was also guilty of being critical, non communicative and emotionally detached. But when I kicked my W out, I went dark. Only communicated when it was in regards to the kids. But it has worked and is still working. I know it all sounds backwards but I do believe this process and I am still DB'ing even now that my W and I are piecing our M back together. You can do this. Start now!
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
